It all started when I announced my second pregnancy. ‘ Do you know the gender’ .. ‘Will you find out?’
Since I was a little girl I have always imagined having a daughter. To think here I am with two boys is quite hilarious as I’m one of the girliest girls there is as you may notice from my Instagram.
Having a second I was torn between wanting a girl for myself or wanting a baby brother for Bertie . When George was born my first thought was delight that Bertie has a brother.. a little baby brother.. and boy did he love him the minute he set eyes on him. I spent the first sleepless night in hospital on the Boden website , delighted that the baby boy range is from age 0-4 and planning what matching items I would have my two little boys dressed in.
Day two was when I noticed it. The midwife ( who was so lovely might I add) was doing the rounds chatting to all the ladies and was speaking to the girl in the bay beside me .She had just had twin boys after previously having twin girls! ‘ Oh how perfect.. the perfect family .. two boys and two girls, you must be so thrilled’ .. She looked at me.. ‘is this your first?’ ‘No I replied .. I have a little boy Bertie who is two’. ‘Oh two boys ‘.. that was it!!! ‘TWO BOYS! no further conversation. This was just the start of it.
From family and friends asking if I will go again and ‘ try for a girl’ to complete strangers I couldn’t believe how peoples perceptions are of having two children of the same sex.
My lowest moment was when after two and a half weeks of confinement in the house I had the strength to push the double buggy round to my local M&S on my own .. ( I had a second section so its quite the battle pushing a pram for a while) . I was so pleased with myself pushing my lovey double pram round with my two boys side by side.. Bertie insisted on holding Georges hand the whole way.. True brother love. I stopped to photograph them holding hands and send it to my family proud as punch (See below)
At the till in M & S I was delighted the lady showed an interest in my new addition.. after all it was my first time out of the house on my own.. I was kind of hoping I’d get some coo’s from strangers at my beautiful new born. ‘ Oh two boys… Will you try again for a girl’ … my heart sank. Tears welled up in my eyes and I quickly left… I cried a lot that afternoon .. hormones were at an almighty high and I was inconsolable. If I’m honest my eyes are welling up writing this, remembering that feeling and her words.
I was devastated that this was someone’s first impression of my beautiful perfect baby boy.
Purpose of this post is to think before we speak… I have lost count of the many pass remarkable comments I have had regarding having two boys.. they become less hurtful now as I have become used to it. Other boy mums may know what I mean.. I wonder do girl Mums have the same?
Would I love a daughter.. of course I would… Would I swap either of my two boys.. never in a million years.
As it turns out all my favourite instagram mums are ‘raising boys’.. Cara Sutherland , Hunters & Heels and my favourite Sally from ‘ getting stuff done in heels ‘ even got a pink front door out of living in a house of boys.
I might have to stick with my pink smeg.. On a note about my favourite boy mums I would love you to go and read the blog of a mum who is very local to me in Northern Ireland. Sarah has two beautiful boys .. Alfie & Nate and I you can read their story at www.coffeecrayonsandcancer.com . A true definition of a super hero boy Mum.