Be More You

Being a ‘people pleaser’ is one thing, but spending your life either consciously or sub-consciously holding youself back because you worry what other people think is a whole other matter.

As with most of us, my harshest critic is myself. But not long ago, I gave more worries about what others thought of me than what I thought of myself.

Yes I have created a space that is built around likes and numbers that dictate the value of my content. But i’m not just talking about those types of  likes and approvals. Im also talking about those a little closer to home.

Friends, family, co-workers and peers… These are the ones that can be the harshest, hurtful and worst of all.. The reason most people hold back on fulfilling what they really want to do.

Whether that’s setting up a new business, blog, You Tube, making a go of your IG, or starting IG Stories; so many people hold back for fear of judgement from those closest to them . I had nerves back in the day changing my name from lauraannbarr to @all.thats.pretty… What would those 89 followers/friends think /say ?!?  What is she doing? Who does she think she is?

Setting up my blog was just as nerve wracking.. It took months before I finally hit publish for fear of what others thought and would say.. I only wish I done it sooner now.

I have lost count of the times people message me or mention to me they would love to start blogging or ‘making a go’ of their instagram page. When I tell them they most definitely should, they all reply the same.. ‘Oh no, I couldn’t ‘  ‘ Oh people would laugh at me’ ‘I’m not confident enough’ etc.. They are worried about what their friends , family and peers would think of them.

Surely if these people were true friends, they would be supportive, encouraging and pleased for you?  If they are true friends that care, surely they would be horrified that they were holding you back on something just because you fear their judgement?

I have gradually stopped worrying what people think of me and am trying to be more concerned with what I think of myself. If I’m proud of what I’ve created – especially something I have styled or photographed – then that enough for me.

I bought this bike 10 years ago as I just loved it the moment I set eyes on it. ( long before the days of instagram). I have always wanted to create this style of photo ;  Me , riding the bike, with flowers in the basket.. Preferably in some sort of bright floral dress.. having a laugh!  I think it sums me up perfectly.

I swear, since I owned that bike, that’s what I thought every time I looked at it.

God forbid I ask someone to take the photo for fear they thought I loved myself I was self centred, it was silly, stupid, self-absorbed and cringe-worthy!

However here I am… In Belfast City centre, pushing my pink bike with a basked filled with flowers in a pink dress and my head held high. People were staring, horns were beeping and questions were asked… However I wasn’t embarrassed. This was me. I was having fun creating something i’ve always wanted to do.

We’ve all been there. Whether it’s from someone who doesn’t get us, someone who underestimates us or just someone who diminishes our accomplishments. Worrying about what other people think is sole destroying and it can take the best of us.

What somebody says about you speaks more of their character, than it does of yours.

Value yourself, and value those in turn who see the good in you. You don’t need to please everybody, just be passionate and proud of whoever it is you happen to be or want to be.

Set up that blog, go for that job,  create that content .. You will never please everyone and those thoughts in your head are probably much worse than reality.. True friends will be 100% supportive and excited for your new venture.

Im still learning myself, but i’m making progress.

Dress here

Shoes here

Laura-Ann xx

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29 Comments

  1. Lauren Shepherd
    January 30, 2018 / 9:26 am

    Awwww I love love love your vibe lady! And how gorgeous do you look on that Bike in that dress?! Gorgeous! I know you and I would be best pals in real life ❤️❤️❤️

    • lauraann
      January 30, 2018 / 9:27 am

      Thanks Lovely Lauren !!!!! Don’t tell the others .. but your my fav 🤫😉😘❤️

    • lauraann
      January 30, 2018 / 2:53 pm

      Thanks so much Karen xx

  2. Christine
    January 30, 2018 / 3:25 pm

    Love this post, it really sums it up for me. There have been so many things I have wanted to do in my life, but the thought of what others may think or say has held be back. Good for you. You look beautiful by the way. X

    • lauraann
      January 30, 2018 / 4:59 pm

      Thanks so much Christine so glad you liked it xxxx

  3. Claire
    January 30, 2018 / 4:09 pm

    Lovely upbeat post Laura Ann, I’m so leased that I swiped up! Our journeys are (hopefully) long and we never stop learning, about ourselves and others! 🙅🏼‍♀️

    • lauraann
      January 30, 2018 / 4:59 pm

      Thanks so much Claire I totally agree !! Still learning myself xxxx

  4. Elizabeth
    January 30, 2018 / 4:38 pm

    Such a great positive uplifting post. Hope our paths cross some day through this world of ig you never know 😘

    • lauraann
      January 30, 2018 / 4:59 pm

      Thanks so much Elizabeth!! Haha I think this is the year xxx

  5. Juliana
    January 30, 2018 / 5:57 pm

    Lovely positive post Laura-Ann, it’s so true that the people closest too you can be your greatest and harshest critics or the ones that you fear judgement from the most! Has definitely held me back in the past!! Thanks for challenging this!

    • lauraann
      January 30, 2018 / 8:29 pm

      Thanks for taking the time to
      Comment – glad you loved it !! We are all guilty of worrying too much what people think xxx

  6. Christine
    January 30, 2018 / 7:39 pm

    Thanks for such an uplifting post. We’re all guilty of this. Photo is fabulous. Magazine worthy!

    • lauraann
      January 30, 2018 / 8:30 pm

      Aw thanks so much!! I’m so guilty of it but really trying to stop it !!! Feel much better for it xxx

  7. January 30, 2018 / 9:25 pm

    Ahhh so true on every level! Love this so much and you and your bike are sunshiney beautiful xxx

    • lauraann
      January 30, 2018 / 11:09 pm

      Thanks so much xxx

  8. January 30, 2018 / 10:19 pm

    Ohh I LOVE this post Laura Ann. When I started my blog, I didn’t tell anyone about it for 2 years; I was so embarrassed. But now, 5 years on, I feel so proud.

    What people think of me *does* matter – I’d be lying if I said it didn’t – but what I think of myself and the content I’m creating matters more. Love this – and the beautiful pics!! Wish I lived closer to you lovely!! I’d be out riding a bike with a basket full of flowers too xx

    • lauraann
      January 30, 2018 / 11:10 pm

      Hahaha YESS!!!! Xxxx

  9. January 30, 2018 / 10:58 pm

    Just found you through my lovely friend, Jules. I can’t agree more with everything you’ve said in this post. It’s an ongoing struggle of mine. Your happiness radients in these pictures 😍 xx

    • lauraann
      January 30, 2018 / 11:10 pm

      Aww thank you Claire !!! Ahhh love your home and pics and everything!! New fan 💁🏼‍♀️💞👌🏻

  10. January 31, 2018 / 3:26 pm

    You look stunning! What beautiful photos 🙂 YES to this!! What people think holds a lot of people back but why?? They talk anyway. Best to go for things and see where life takes you! I have always been like this and try not to let other people’s negativity hold me back. Great post 🙂 xx

    • lauraann
      January 31, 2018 / 3:33 pm

      Thanks so much Jess !!! Have a fab day xxxx

  11. January 31, 2018 / 9:10 pm

    You’ve totally inspired me! Beautiful post, beautiful photos. Simply gorgeous!! xx

    • lauraann
      January 31, 2018 / 9:21 pm

      Thanks so much !! So glad you enjoyed it xx

  12. sallyfazeli
    January 31, 2018 / 10:42 pm

    What a beautiful and inspiring post! I felt myself nodding to everything you said and I know I still have that ‘what if’ feeling quite often… time to shake it off and think more about me!

    Thank you beautiful, just what I needed xxx

    • lauraann
      January 31, 2018 / 10:45 pm

      Thanks so much Sally!! Love your posts and pictures !! Always beautiful xxxx

  13. January 31, 2018 / 11:20 pm

    I’m just in love with this post – AND those pictures!! I just know your words will inspire someone to go out and just be “them”. You rock 💛

    • lauraann
      January 31, 2018 / 11:22 pm

      Thank you so much for taking the time to
      Comment xxx

    • lauraann
      February 1, 2018 / 7:25 am

      Thanks Nicola for the lovey comment ! I really do Hope so!!! Xxxx

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